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Thief of joy

I have been on a bit of a mini soul-searching (soul-crushing?) journey in the past few weeks about my life, my career, and my relationships with people (mostly friendship). The question “Where did I go wrong?” comes up a fair bit. I know what people said about “Comparison is the thief of joy”, but IContinue reading “Thief of joy”

“Go back to where you came from”

Where I came from1000 years of border war; 100 years of colonization; 30 years (American-backed) Vietnam War; The West speaks about us as if we were a concept,as if the poverty, the uncertainty, the lack of opportunity,is self-inflicted. Where I came from,Men love women. They get married. They bear children. They care for their elders.KidsContinue reading ““Go back to where you came from””

All you need is love (?)

“In 1967, John Lennon wrote a song called, “All You Need Is Love.” He also beat both of his wives, abandoned one of his children, verbally abused his gay Jewish manager with homophobic and anti-semitic slurs, and once had a camera crew film him lying naked in his bed for an entire day.” – MarkContinue reading “All you need is love (?)”

Thank goodness

It’s been a busy and interesting weekend. Our company organized a holiday party (I know, a bit early, but they managed to reserve a premium lounge during a hockey game, which I think was a good idea, and it proved to be a really big draw among staff). A friend whom I was supposed toContinue reading “Thank goodness”

What if – If only

“Are you fulfilled? Do you feel fulfilled in life?” Usually, that is the type of question that would have sent me to a downward spiral and curled me up in a corner on the floor. That’s a tough question. That’s a big, grand question about how many of our big, grand ambitions and desires getContinue reading “What if – If only”

The coming out monologue

It is Pride week in Calgary (I know, just as most LGBTQ+ rights and human rights in Alberta and Calgary, Pride comes a lot later for us). As I look back and reflect on my life, something stood out to me. Something that I didn’t quite understand back then. I wanted to share this withContinue reading “The coming out monologue”

Six

On our fourth anniversary, I jokingly said, “We have now outlasted a car lease term.” People celebrate their wedding anniversary with material things. Paper. Diamond. Ivory. Wood. Gold. Silver. Unpopular opinion: I think we should celebrate wedding anniversaries with really mundane milestones. A car lease. A dishwasher’s official warranty. A mortgage amortization period. A dog’sContinue reading “Six”

A grateful note

We spent the most part of our weekend gardening. Spring in Calgary is a “transformative” time, which means chaotic, unpredictable, and ever changing. I usually transplant my seedlings on the May long weekend, which frosted and hailed this year. As we got everything in the garden bed, and I sat in front of my hubby’sContinue reading “A grateful note”