(I highly recommend you read this related post from last year before reading this one: https://pace-fine-arts.com/2025/08/05/six/) As I was searching for hetero people’s mundane milestones for a seventh anniversary, the first thing that came up was the “Seven-year itch”, which is a popular idiom suggesting that happiness and satisfaction in a marriage or long-term relationshipContinue reading “Seven”
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Thief of joy
I have been on a bit of a mini soul-searching (soul-crushing?) journey in the past few weeks about my life, my career, and my relationships with people (mostly friendship). The question “Where did I go wrong?” comes up a fair bit. I know what people said about “Comparison is the thief of joy”, but IContinue reading “Thief of joy”
Adult friendships
I guess one of my biggest regrets in life at this point in time has been my failure to maintain meaningful friendships as an adult. I do have a lot of friends, don’t get me wrong. However, whenever I have something very exciting to celebrate, the closest friend I have that I want to goContinue reading “Adult friendships”
I’d rather go touch grass
There’s a war out there(some old pervert pedophile set the world on fireto distract from his affairs)Gas price is at an all-time high(while the provincial government does its best to take away people’s human rightsas they sell our future, and our land – not even ours – to the extremist right)Books are banned(by the sameContinue reading “I’d rather go touch grass”
Japan – reflections of a 2-week trip
We just came back from 2 weeks in Japan. It’s been a long-awaited trip. We wanted to celebrate my brother’s 30th birthday (he has always wanted to go to Japan) and my hubby’s 40th. We packed a lot of activities and places into the few days we were there, and we had a blast. TheContinue reading “Japan – reflections of a 2-week trip”
“Go back to where you came from”
Where I came from1000 years of border war; 100 years of colonization; 30 years (American-backed) Vietnam War; The West speaks about us as if we were a concept,as if the poverty, the uncertainty, the lack of opportunity,is self-inflicted. Where I came from,Men love women. They get married. They bear children. They care for their elders.KidsContinue reading ““Go back to where you came from””
All you need is love (?)
“In 1967, John Lennon wrote a song called, “All You Need Is Love.” He also beat both of his wives, abandoned one of his children, verbally abused his gay Jewish manager with homophobic and anti-semitic slurs, and once had a camera crew film him lying naked in his bed for an entire day.” – MarkContinue reading “All you need is love (?)”
41
“Am I happy?” I remembered vividly the day I turned 21 (20 years ago). Perhaps because, in Singapore, that’s what people define as “adulthood” – men finish the army – and I had 5 Singaporean roommates at a time. Perhaps, because we were in New York City, first time for me, and Asians (and VietnameseContinue reading “41”
41 – Prologue
(This is 1 week out before my birthday. People who know me know I am weird about my birthday. To catch you up, new people in my life. I have this pre-birthday-panic every year because my inner Asian mom keeps telling me, “What have I done with my life besides getting older?” Then on myContinue reading “41 – Prologue”
Thank goodness
It’s been a busy and interesting weekend. Our company organized a holiday party (I know, a bit early, but they managed to reserve a premium lounge during a hockey game, which I think was a good idea, and it proved to be a really big draw among staff). A friend whom I was supposed toContinue reading “Thank goodness”
